Questions to Ask Your Best Friend

How to ask your best friend without making it an interview

Pick one question. Read it. Answer it yourself if she wants a model, or let her go first if she already has a story. Then stop. A good question gets one answer each. It does not get a cross-examination, a score, or a speech about what you would have done. One follow-up is enough, and only if it is "what did you mean by that."

These questions to ask your best friend assume a shared history. They work for two people on a sofa, and they work for a girls night of up to six if the best friend is in the room and can pass. Past six, a personal question turns into a performance. Split the circle, or play a shorter game. If one friend should sit in the chair while everyone else asks, that round is the hot seat questions for friends. This page is a trade. You both get a turn.

Skip anything that needs a person who cannot answer: an ex by name, a parent as the punchline, a partner's private story, a body, money as a ranking, or a secret she told you in confidence used as tonight's entertainment. If the honest answer would embarrass someone who is not playing, pick another line. The reader is allowed to throw a prompt out.

The deep questions to ask your friends are the slower group conversation, with a short warm-up and no best-friend assumption. The girls night questions to ask are the party list: fifty prompts you can run as a round. Use that page when the night needs a game. Use this page when the point is one friendship. If the room is a friend group and you need a starter rather than a one-to-one trade, use the conversation starters for friends. A fast fork, with no story required, is the this or that questions for friends. A three-name bit, when you are done talking about yourselves, is the kiss marry kill game.

Fun questions to ask your best friend

Ask two of these fun questions to ask your best friend, not all of them. They are specific enough to get a real answer and light enough that a pass does not feel like a confession.

1. What plan of ours do you still describe to people who were not there?
2. Which errand would you rather do together than finish alone?
3. What song do you put on when it is only the two of us and nobody is performing?
4. What did we get very good at for a month and then drop without a speech?
5. If we had one free hour in this city and no phones, where would you actually take me?
6. What food do you order when you do not have to explain it to anyone?
7. Which of my habits have you started doing without deciding to?
8. What would you add to an ordinary Tuesday if nobody had to photograph it?
9. What do you want the group chat to stop deciding by poll?
10. If we repeated one trip and changed one thing, what is the thing?
11. What small luxury in your week would you notice the day it disappeared?
12. When something good happens, who do you want to tell first, and what do you want that person to say?

If the fun questions are the whole night, that is a success. You do not owe the room a deeper round because you opened this page. When the group wants a dealt card instead of a list, Icebreakers is the matching deck. It is a different set of lines from the twelve above.

Play the Icebreakers deck

Funny questions to ask your best friend

Funny questions to ask your best friend work when the habit is already a shared story. If the joke only lands when she feels small, pick a different line.

1. What text of mine would you read aloud if the room needed a short version of me?
2. Which of our plans was mostly the story we told afterward?
3. What have you pretended to like because I was excited, and how long did you last?
4. Which of my voice notes should have been one sentence?
5. What would our group chat be called if you named it honestly and kindly?
6. Which restaurant do we keep returning to for a reason that is not the food?
7. What did I wear once that you still mention, in a way I can live with?
8. If our friendship had a blooper reel, which clip would you play first?
9. What rule do we announce and then break before we have sat down?
10. Which of us would narrate a grocery run, and which of us would let her?
11. What is a hill you will die on that I am allowed to find ridiculous?
12. What excuse have we used so often that it became a private joke?

A public vote, with no secret and no best-friend history required, is Most Likely To. Point only at people who are playing. The written prompts are the Most Likely To questions.

Play the Most Likely To deck

Questions to ask your best friend to know them better

Long friendships skip questions because you think you already know the answer. These questions to ask your best friend to know them better are about a preference, a week you do not see, or a plan she has not announced. There is no score. A wrong guess is not a failure.

1. What do you wish people asked you about that is not your job?
2. What part of your week do I not see, and do you want me to?
3. What preference have you changed in the last year?
4. What are you bored of explaining, even to people you love?
5. When you say you are fine and you are not, what would you rather I do?
6. What memory of us do you think I have wrong?
7. What are you practicing in private that you have not announced?
8. What does a good host do, in your version, that most people skip?
9. What room, city, or time of day feels most like you right now?
10. What have you outgrown that I might still be bringing up?
11. What do you want the next year to be known for, besides being busy?
12. What are you good at that almost nobody asks you to do?

If the group wants a quiz with answers the bride already wrote down, that is the how well do you know the bride game. It does not belong in a best-friend conversation. A guess built from three statements is the two truths and a lie ideas page, and those facts are hers to invent.

Deep questions to ask your best friend

These deep questions to ask your best friend are one at a time. Ask one, then let it finish. Do not use a deep question to process a fight you have not named, and do not ask it because the room has gone quiet and you want a speech.

1. What have I done, even once, that made you trust me with something that mattered?
2. Where do you think I still underestimate you?
3. What do you want from this friendship in a year that is different from what you wanted when we met?
4. What are you afraid I will be too polite to say?
5. In a hard season, what do you actually want from me, and what do you want me to stop doing?
6. What part of your life feels like it belongs to you, and what part still feels borrowed?
7. What did you have to unlearn that you were praised for?
8. What would you like me to remember about you if we did not talk for a month?
9. What choice are you in the middle of that does not need a verdict from me?
10. Where have we been lucky, and where have we been careful?
11. What do you want to be believed about, without turning it into a speech?
12. What would make the next year feel like it belongs to you, not only to the calendar?

Listening is the other half of the turn. Do not fix the answer. Do not match it with a bigger story before she has finished. If you do not know what to say, thank you is a complete response. The longer written choices, if the room wants a side instead of a story, are the would you rather questions.

Play the Truth deck

Juicy questions to ask your best friend

Save the juicy questions to ask your best friend until you have both agreed to talk about dating and judgment. Spicy but tasteful: no explicit scenes, no names of people outside the room, and nothing that only works as a trap. If anyone in the conversation is under 18, leave this list closed.

1. What is a green flag you used to ignore because it was not dramatic?
2. Do you want me honest about a person you are seeing, or on your side until you ask?
3. What do you wish you had said on a date, and what are you glad you kept to yourself?
4. When you are interested, are you obvious, or do you want to be hard to read?
5. What kind of evening feels romantic to you now, compared with the version you performed years ago?
6. What is a dating story you will tell this room, and what is one you are keeping?
7. Who in your life gives advice about dating that you actually use?
8. What did a good first evening teach you that a long talking stage did not?
9. What do you want a person to notice about you before they notice how you look?
10. If we were both interested in the same person, what would you want us to do first?
11. What is the difference, for you, between chemistry and a reason to make a second plan?
12. What do you want me to do if you are about to text someone you already decided was a bad idea?

If everyone playing wants a franker list than this, the 18+ girls night questions are the opt-in set, including After Dark. Do not treat that guide as the next category on this page. A sofa dare between questions lives on the truth or dare questions, and it still needs a pass. A confession with a finger rule is the Never Have I Ever questions.

Let the phone pick the next question

You can use this whole page with no phone. Read in order, stop when the conversation is better than the next prompt, and do not announce that you are "doing deep." When you want the next line dealt, so the host is not also choosing how personal to get, open the game. Truth is the closest deck: one open answer, a different set from the sixty questions above. Icebreakers are the warm start. Most Likely To is a vote. Would You Rather is a fork. Never Have I Ever is a small confession. Challenge is one short dare. Bride Mode stays off unless the night is for a bride.

After Dark is a separate 18+ deck. The game asks you to confirm that everyone playing is old enough before those cards are included. A juicy question on this page is not that confirmation. This conversation needs no drink. If someone wants a sip attached to an answer, that rule belongs on the drinking games page, agreed before the first question, and only if everyone drinking alcohol is of legal drinking age. Do not make a pass cost a sip.

A whispered name and a coin is a different agreement. That round is the paranoia questions game. A night that never leaves the sofa is the girls night in games. Friends on a call can use the virtual girls night games and keep the same pass rule. If anyone is staying over, the sleepover games for adults cover the part where people need to sleep. A bottle on the table can use the wine night games. A weekend away can use the girls trip games. The games with no equipment are there when you want to stand up. A dated night can borrow a list and then come back to one best-friend question: Christmas, New Year's Eve, a birthday, Galentine's Day, Halloween, or Friendsgiving. A hen do is the hen party games at home. A family shower is the bridal shower games on phone, and this list does not belong there. A US bachelorette plan is the bachelorette games on one phone, with the bachelorette party questions as the written set.

Play the Icebreakers deck

Play the Most Likely To deck

Play the Never Have I Ever deck

Play the Truth deck

Play the Challenge deck

Play the Would You Rather deck

Play the Bride Mode deck

How the button opens the game

The main button opens setup with Truth already selected and the other decks switched off. The level starts on Fun. Drop it to Chill while people are still arriving. Spicy stays off until the whole group wants a different conversation from the funny list. Pass the phone after each card. About eight cards is a round. Then come back to one question on this page, or stop.

The prompts on this page are not the cards in the deck. Read them when you want a best-friend question in this order. Use the phone when you want the next question chosen for you.

You do not pay per deck. Pricing on this phone is the same as the rest of the site: first 6 cards free, full unlock one-time $4.99. It is not a subscription.

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